Tuesday, January 19, 2010

Scam-a-lam-a Ding Dong

This post dedicated to never having to lie to my children EVER again.
Thank you for the picture Leisha.

Remember this post?

Update here.

You really, REALLY, R-E-A-L-L-Y
don't want to miss out on reading it.

"Chelsia" I just want you to know that I did get your e-mail last year.
(It surprisingly made it past the blockade I built around you and into my junk e-mail folder.)
It was a miracle that we were able to read it.

I had forgiven you at that point.
I still forgive you.
I accepted your apology and was thankful for it.

There was just a part of me that didn't want to give you the satisfaction of knowing that.

Now you do.

Hope you are telling the truth and that you find happiness in your heart and in your life.


kenna said...

You go girl. You are one of the most graceful and strong ladies I know.

ps. your hair always looks like a rock star's would. i'm jealous.

moosh in indy. said...

*deep breath*
you're good people.
I'm honored that you choose to be my friend.

Holly said...

I read the post over at Mrs. R - she sounds like a really troubled person. I can't imagine doing this to someone but I'm impressed with your forgiveness of her.

dust and kam said...

You are amazing, beautiful and so, so strong.

So many questions. lol

Lots of love!!

Olivia Singleton said...

Yeah... I really can't wrap my brain around this whole situation. I'm trying to restrain myself from saying a few things that probably won't be helpful in the long run. So I'll keep it short and just say you're a far greater person than I am.

Sell...Party Of 4 said...

thank you for being such a great example to me. you are such an awesome person. glad that I am apart of your world.

Miss Marilee said...

Hi...you don't know me, but I'm a new reader. I'm sorry the posts I had to start out reading are under such lame circumstances. I also want you to know that from what I read, you're an amazing person. You're much stronger than I could ever be. Keep your head up! Your pictures are beautiful.

Lace said...

I went and read "Chelsia's post" and got swept up in the whole "T.A story" as well. Unreal. How sad for everyone involved...

mrs. r said...

agreed, kimmie. i am not all the way there since i didn't believe at first that she was telling the truth, but in our follow-up emails, i believe she may be.

one of the hardest things about getting scammed (even just for 4 days) is that it is hard to truat people. any people. i feel like that part of me is broken.


damage that i did not anticipate. i thought that not getting emotionally involved really was enough to protect myself from letting T.A. hurt me, but as i have repeatedly thought the worst of people in the last week or so, i think the damage may be more than i thought.

again, boo! hiss!

Trinbean said...

WOW, I am speachless! That is AWEFUL! but good for you for being so strong. It is hard to forgive someone who has done such aweful things. So good on you! Im glad that you have your sweet little family and that you are happy! you deserve it!


Carrie said...

I still can't believe something like this happened to your sweet family!

I have to say ditto to Miss "Olivia's" comment. I read that post and don't know how you ladies do it except that you are exceptionally strong and courageous!

Carlotta said...

I haven't been scammed and may never be, but my 18 month plus custody is my "scam ". Forgiveness is HARD, buy no means is it over night. I'm finally at the point where it doesn't consume me 24/7 or paralyze me. I know feel bad for my ex, my heart is broken for my daughter who can't defend herself and is the real victim here.
I've realized that sometimes forgiveness is every day and even multiple times a day, hope steps in and the other person fails your expectations of what you hoped for. I've had to focus on what I've learned and will learn.
Kim, you didn't lie to your children, you were put in a position as well as your family where someone used their agency and promises weren't. k ept because of their agency not yours.

I've been reading Self Forgiveness, by Wendy Ulrich. It's amazing how it's actually almost as hard if not harder to forgive yourself.

There's a quote in it I love,
" forgiving and being reconciled are not pretending that things are other then they are. It is not putting one another on the back and turning a blind eye to the wrong. .....forgiveness. .......means taking what happened seriously and not minimizing it; drawing out the sting in the memory that threatens to poison our entire existence. It involves trying to understand the perpetrators and so have empathy, to try to stand in their shoes and appreciate the sort of pressures and influences that might have conditioned them. "

Desmond Tutu

Thanks for letting me share

marisa said...

I think you could sell movie rights. I'm so sorry you had to go through that, thank goodness you are strong enough to move past it!

Nishant said...

You are amazing, beautiful and so, so strong.

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